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Battered Women's Survey
Is
there too much abuse in your relationship or in someone you love's
relationship? It can be difficult to tell if a relationship has become
very abusive especially when it began with a very strong bond of love.
Observing behavior rather than just listening to what someone says is the best
way to tell if there is too much abuse even if no one has raised a hand to
hit, yet.
The following questions have been developed in various battered woman's
programs around the world. Try to answer them for your relationship or for
someone who you love. If there are more than five categories checked off, or
any one of the last five questions, then there is too much abuse in that
relationship and steps to change it should be undertaken immediately.
Take the Battered Women's Questionnaire. Does the person you love...
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Have to know where you
are all the time? |
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Constantly accuse you
of being unfaithful? |
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Discourage your
relationships with family and friends? |
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Want you to stop
working or attending school? |
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Criticize you for
little things? |
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Anger easily
especially when drinking or using drugs? |
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Control all the
finances and make you account for every penny you spend? |
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Refuse to keep a job
and force you to pay all the bills? |
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Humiliate you or
insult you in front of others? |
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Destroy your personal
property or sentimental things? |
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Demand sex even when
you do not want it? |
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Hit, punch, slap,
push, pull your hair, shake, kick, twist your arms or legs, bite you or your
children? |
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Threaten to hurt you
or your children? |
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Threaten to or
actually use a weapon against you or your children? |
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Coerce or force you to
perform sexual acts you don't want to engage in? |
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Score
If you answered "yes" to more than 5 of the above items or to items #12, 13,
14, or 15, then there is too much violence in your home and you need to do
something right now to help your family survive!
How To Get Help
Call the national domestic violence hot line at 1-800-333-SAFE right now to
find a local battered woman shelter or 1-900-772-3872 for more information
from the Family Survival Network.
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